Fathers and Finances

The heart of a father is a masterpiece of nature. Today I would love to speak more about fathers, the role that they play in our home, and as well for the love and support that they can provide for their family. Good fathers do three things, they provide, they nurture and they guide.

 

During my life, I have been blessed with a goodly parents, especially my father who taught me many things in my life. The relationship that was created between me and dad, had been always strong, based on trust and improvement. Since I was a little girl, I found it really easy to talk to my father for different things and this helped both of us to become really strong open and learning experiences. My father had been working in the navy “Albanian Army” for more than 40 years. Many people when sees my father for the first time are impressed with the generosity that he had and it is really funny and easy to get along. Mostly, people think that he will be really strict and stubborn and are impressed when they see the relationship that is created between us. 

 

 

I remember when I was still in primary, secondary and high school, my father always came to the meetings that we have with teachers and was really good in asking questions about my social life, how I was doing with school, and if I was struggling with something in my life. One of my favorite experiences that I would like to share that strengthen even more my relationship with him was after my mission. I did serve a full-time mission in England Leeds Mission for 18 months (1 year and a half) and for many people that do not know what is a mission, you basically serve in the community and especially share the gospel with everyone who might be interesting. Coming home after that time was really hard for me to adjust with normal life, different taste, and making decisions for myself. I was not sure what I really wanted and I failed in my exam that I needed to take to come here in BYU-Idaho. Satan was playing hard suffering in my mind and guilt was always part of my day, by making me lose hope in everything. I do remember one day I was staying in my room, and my dad came and knocked on my door. He invited me to go out together and we could have cycling by the sea. During that time I was so quiet and was the first time that I went out after 7 days. When we finish, he asked me how I was feeling and he said that he loves me and even I failed in my exam or I was struggling with many things. This love melted my heart and I was crying for hours by opening my heart with him. This moment was really special for me, and I will always be grateful for the love that he showed to me in my hardest moment. 

   

Fathers play a big step in providing for our family, financially, and nurturing us. Mothers are really good at making food and creating everything organized for children, however, fathers are columns in building a good environment for their children. Children need to be learned from an early age the basics of finances and encourage them to save money by planing things that will change their perspective. During family home evenings or family discussions, we should prioritize our children in doing different chores. Therefore, this will help them become more mature, helpful people, humble, and receiving many experiences. Providing for your child always will never help them to achieve realistic goals. Teaching them how to fish is better than providing always a fish in their plates without knowing where this thing came from. I am grateful for the love and support that I always had, especially for the teaching and experiences that I was able to enjoy during my teens and childhood for my Goodly parents.