Divorce, remarriage and aging families. 

Divorce, this attractive phenomenon very widespread today, means separation, but, when the word is used specifically for a heterosexual couple, emotionally and physically united, I personally want to call divorce as a " tear ”very painful and with many consequences, for the following reasons:

 

1) When two people, male and female, unite emotionally and physically, they are no longer two bodies, but one flesh. Therefore, even though this couple has had a casual, instantaneous and unfaithful relationship, divorce, quick separation, It still has consequences, because each of the partners has given and received from the other according to his measure and, he who has given more, feels more insulted and betrayed. But, above all, both have received the grief of the sin of fornication with consequences in their own body, as it is said: "For every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own flesh" () 1 Cor. 7:18). 

 

2) When the union of two persons, man, and woman, takes place on some higher principles, beyond the sexual instinct, with the human intention of creating a family - the cell of human society - and when this union is legalized by God and the state, together with the couple's relatives and with the society that, as a body, accepts this newly created cell with the joy of renewal and perpetuation of humanity, the couple's responsibilities are much greater and the consequences of divorce are no longer only on the personal the plane, but they also affect many other factors, as mentioned above, creating fractures between them, which already poses a social problem for society. 

3) When natural results come from the couple's marriage, the children, the divorce of the husband and wife, who are already father and mother is no longer just a personal, family or social problem, but turns into a tragedy with a lot of pain and worries, the greatest burden of which is borne and borne by those who are most innocent in this situation, the children. None of the divorced parents, no matter how guilty or not, can understand and weigh the grief of the child's soul, the psychological burden it faces, and the consequences it will suffer for life. When he sees that the two people most dear to him, who constituted a unit and whom he called loving parents, suddenly separate and leave in extreme coldness and hatred, as innocent in this the situation, he is shocked and feels inward as I have torn in half, drawn more and more from one end to the other, where divorce tore off his parents, for the couple will no longer be husband and wife after divorce, but, for the child, they will be to the end father and mother his. 

 

There are many psychological problems that children suffer. Let us mention a few:

1- Divorce affects the normal formation of the child, because the child needs two models, the father and the mother, the authority of the father and the compassion of the mother. A child with divorced parents, boy or girl will have confusion in the formation of his personality, because, as we said, there is no model of parent that he should imitate.

2- Children are constantly stressed in search of the reason why their parents separated. The child, being unable to judge the behaviors of adults, can create a wrong judgment of the parents, up to hatred. Or, the child feels guilty and the cause of this divorce and unable to reunite the parents and this torments his heart every day.

3- Children with divorced parents feel different from other children with regular families. This creates stress for them, closes them in on themselves, makes them not be open in expression, which creates psychological disorder and incorrect relationships with others.

4- Divorce creates economic problems and children with divorced parents are forced to grow up in difficult conditions, not with proper education, or are forced to work from a young age to make up for the economic shortcomings that come due to parental divorce.

5- Children grow up without the natural love of both parents together and this will affect their private life, especially when they will start their own family, risking doing the same in life as their parents. Thus, the bad example of divorce risks being repeated and spread from generation to generation.

 

It always gets worse before it can get better. But it will get better. Like everything else, and like our past struggles, at some point, we win, but before that win, there’s always that loss that spurs us on.”