Sexual intimacy and family life.

“Without knowledge, actions are useless, and knowledge without action is futile”-Abu Bakr-

Couples in our days most of the time prefer to have the perfect marriage which includes everything that is for the outside face such as a house, cars, the perfect vacations, etc. On the other hand, they do not have the right information for the privacy or things that they want to share with each other, which leads to miscommunications, selfishness, and confusion. Learning about intimacy and creating family life, will be more beneficial then prioritizing which car or jewelry would we buy for our spouse. 

Our environment today provides us many resources that can give us information about intimacy and how to make our family life easier. First of all, we should find the right equipment, resources and people to ask. The good and the bad of this information is that we should have at the right time and in the right way. As all we know, females and males are different not only from their physical appearance and the attributes that we do have but we like and express different desires. This can be related to couples when it is going in having an intimacy time between them or going in the other step in having sexual relationships and creating a family. According to the family and marriage therapist, females had the idea that good relationship stars by creating trust and as well as closeness between each other. On the other hand, males are more like to have more physical toughness between their partners. However, learn things that like and what they do not like, helps more that the couples can enjoy more marriage life and intimacy.


  

Sexual intimacy is a gift from God. It is sacred and it is no secret. The reason why we think that is sacred because it needs to be between a husband and a wife and not between other people. Most of the time teenagers find interesting learning about this topic by navigating on the internet in bad resources such as pornography, nudes, or dirty stuff. Those are inappropriate and can lead to misunderstanding the concept of intimacy. When a couple decides to get married they should talk and stay close together in the ideas that they have and what they want from each other.

Most of the time couples find themselves in the ESP Myth “ If my spouse loves me, he should instinctively know what I want and need to be happy”



 

When we do not talk about the things that we like and dislike especially in the intimacy part we find ourselves not enjoying what we are doing and not find connections any more. Nowadays, the number of divorces is increased a lot only because couples find themself not closed as they were in the beginning. Intimacy is really important between man and the woman to be special and loving. One experience that I would like to share is a compelling example of this. When my cousin got married she was only 18 years old and she did not know everything about intimacy and how she can talk to her husband about those things. Most of the time we see as a tabu this topic and especially from the family where I was raised. Her husband was older than her. He was in that time 28 years old which made him have more experience than her. After a while, she was not feeling the same as happy as she was and they had miscommunications. Some of their good friends suggested them go and had some counseling in a marriage and council therapist which could help them with many things that they need to improve. Because of that, my cousin now is much happier and they have a child now which was a blessing for them to stat to create their own family.




Let’s be open and cheerful in our family life and have a healthy conversation for our intimacy which can help us in many different concepts of our family. The body is a blessing of God and we should respect both us and our partner as the gift from Heaven.