Preparing for marriage.

Marriage is essential in our lives and in Heavenly Father’s plan. In the religion that I practice (which is Christian LDS) we believe that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children. Our days, marriage had come to be as a contract, and partners see each other as interest, and sometimes when this “deal” will finish they will get divorced and they will separate from each other. Additionally, this is really sad, and cost much damage to our society, family, and as well as individuals. The relationship does not start only for fun or being with one another in fun situations, but we can be for a long time commitment. Therefore, getting to know one person it stars with dating, hanging ou, service, sharing the same interest, thoughts, ideas, dreams, etc. This might take time, but it will be really important for us to be fully committed to the person that we know and that might be the eternal partner for time and eternity. 

I would like to share one of my favorite stories that even I listen many times, this is inspirational for me. The story of love and humbleness of both my sweet and loving parents. As I had a mansion before my parents and the rest of my family are in Albania and where we come from family plays a big role in our society especially marriage. We do put much effort, especially on the wedding day. We di not get married in the church because this is not required but we must get married and have a big celebration. A quick reminder is that my parents and as well me and my sister convert to the church and for us, it is really special getting to experience both lifestyles. However, my parents got married according to the law of the land. They dated for 1 year and were engaged for 1 year and a half and after that was crowed by a beautiful marriage. Even though they got married 28 years ago their relationship is really strong and always cheerful. Many of my friends when they see my parents are curious to know how is it possible after this long time are still in love and still get along. Sometimes for me is sad when you thing “still get along” because you must get along if you decided to do that step which s really important in your life. My parents always reply humbly, “We strength the weakness of each other and we work together through all situations” They are still together and I know that in their life had been many difficulties and situations with a lot of intense but they never put themselves first, but tried to help each other and prioritized the other person. 

Today, young single adults would like to go out with one person and sometimes with many people at the same time. In the end, they will choose which one is the right on and they will continue with that. However, the decision that comes is more prioritize form beauty or self apprentice, money, success, and material thing. Rarely people see in our days as a spiritual commitment. In my opinion is a compelling example of this. One of my closes friends that I was able to serve in the same mission with her, she got married really quickly with one boy that was dating for 2 months and a half. They get to know each other for at least 2 months and during that time got engaged and married. Unfortunately, they stayed only for 9 months married and they are divorced. When I speak to her why she decided to get married to someone for such a short period of time she replied: “because he was cool and I thought will be cool having him as my husband” Marriage is not “Cool” It is a gift a special gift that you share between yourself and another person that you love and present deeply. My idea of preparing for marriage it stars now for those that still singe and for those that are married start every day that they live together by being better. 

I know that as we strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society, we will have a better and healthy coming generation and we can improve all together. “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”-Mignon McLaughlin-

Gender and family life.




In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony. “Friedrich Nietzsche”

This quote has a special meaning for me. Home can be where your heart is and family is the strongest treatment for your soul. Each of us cames from different family-style and we are unique for what we represent and how we were raised. Heavenly Father created us to come here and have a life and create that according to our choice, obviously with His might Help, but we should make our choices and change always for good and become better. Most of the people find power when they are closer to their loved ones and especially family. No one is perfect which means our family is not perfect, therefore this can make everything really desirable because if we were the same everything will be really boring. The difference that we see started from an early age to children and especially between boys and girls. According to many studies, they came to the conclusion that girls express more emotions than boys. On the other hand Boys can be tough and really energetic when it comes to games, fights or sports. Even though this can be classified as gender differences we still have one thing in comen that we all are human beings. Chaz Bono, an author said “Gender is between your eyes and not your legs.” I do think that these descriptions even though is really boldly has a special meaning because we judge really quickly the person if it is a boy or a girl. However, everyone can have qualities that can be valuable for both genders and accepted in society for good.

Since the begging girls were not equal enough with boys. Luckily in our days, this issue had been much better. However, we realize that another problem that we do have in our days is between marriage between the same marriage. Recently we have seen that many countries support this and by law, they can be married happily and continue their lives for good.
However we see that it is not that easy because not everyone understands and supports this thing. We should listen with the ears of our hearts and not only with the ears of our human being. I know that sometimes it is really hard to do that because we can judge really quickly the situation of another person but we should put our self in their shoes and change our ways of thinking and perspective.

I know that this needs a lot of changes in our minds and how we start to set our minds and look at those situations. In my own experience is a compelling example of this. Where I come from by-law of the land marriage between the same gender had been approved by the government. However, most of the people do not support that deep inside of themselves, life and society. They do judge those people that get married to the same gender and bullies had been always the main issue. This thing brakes my heart because those people do not find love, support, or even freedom. For some parts in my country, they are really stubborn and I do remember when a gay couple was together holding hands, the reaction of people was really rude and started to behave badly. I know that for most of people this can be really painful and can cost a lot of depression, lack of confidence, and lowliness.


I would like to encourage everyone to spread love unconditionally even though sometimes it can be difficult or sometimes we do not want to do so. We are a all equal and we can accept each other for who we are. People fall in love with the person not a gender. Rejoice with your family in the beautiful land of your life, and accept everyone to feel the same love that family can bring.

Social class and cultural diversity.

We may have different religions, different languages, different color skins, but we all belong to one HUMAN RACE. I would like to start my blog today with this quote from Kofi Annan. We live in a world that diversity is really big and we have many people that like to do different things, speak differently, think or create investment in a way that is more convenient for them. I have been blessed to get to know people from many places all over the world and as well I have been blessed traveling a lot for these past 10 years. 

One of the things that changed my perspective in understanding cultural diversity can after I went to England for 18 months and served as a missionary from the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. It was shocking in the beginning for me because was the first time living abroad as well talking to people with different background and stories. Living in the place and learning from books or the internet makes a huge difference. I was able to live and be touched by English culture as well from my companies whom some of them were from South America, South Africa, Australia, America, Balkan New Zeland, etc. Even though the difference was really big in the lifestyle that we were living, I was so impressed with the similarity that we had. I would like to share some of those experiences with you.




English Culture is really lovely and is easy to adjust. British people, love to share jokes with other people, welcome friends or anyone that knock on their door for a cup of tea and some alcohol or for some people that do not drink that (which includes me) some hot chocolate. When you go to someone’s home and you are invited to eat a meal with them, you will notice in the table a fancy decoration, with spoons and forks as well as knives. Where I come from is not really common eating with all equipment but learning this in England made me more grateful and apricated food in my table and having my body straight as I was in a royal meal. 

On the other hand, you will notice that every after a meal you will have a dessert and this was really filling for me. I was able to visit other families that were from different cultures and I notice many special things. For instance, Italian loves to cook and talk with so much passion, and this can be really similar in my culture. They like to dress very well and make themself a priority in the model world. African culture is really fun and colorful. They like to be loud and with music and colors. I know that the food that they provide in their family and for others is way too much and they like to welcome everyone.




Eastern europian countries which include my country as well Albania is really unique and you can notice many different things. One of the most impacted is that we are really good at keeping the house organized and cleaned. We welcome others and it is good to take off our shoes when you come home. We love sharing food with others and being polite in inviting them to our table eating with us. Another characteristic is that we give something with them when they live home as respect that they came.




The beauty of the world lies in the diversity of its people. Combing all together the differences that we are surrounded can make a beautiful tapestry and will create a bigger picture for us. Creating a puzzle is required many waves of peace and the same comparable can rely on our world and community where we live.




We can learn from one another and adjust that teaching in our life as well as making sure that we can keep them as unique and adjusting to our own family culture. If the world would look the same everything will be boring, so enjoy the diversity and be grateful for the things that you have in your life.

Understanding Family Dynamics & Theories

The love in our family flows strong and deep, leaving us memories of the treasure and keep.

When we speak about family the first thing that comes in our mind is parents, siblings, or other people that influence our life for good. Each of us is different, and the roots where we come from makes a huge change. Last time that I posted in my blog, I talked a bit about my conversion story in the faith that I believe and develop today. However many people ask me now that I came in America, what is Albania like, what are some traditional things there, how is your family like and what are some rules that you had during your childhood.

Today I would like to speak about some dynamics and impacts that influenced my life when I was growing up and realizing some of the differences and similarities between my family and other families especially in America where I live now. First of all, My family is not that big and we are altogether four people my parent, me and my oldest sister. Basically, we are really close and we love having fun and entertaining a lot with other members of the family such as my cousins’ grandparents or uncles and aunties. During my childhood, my parents were really good teachers in giving us life long lessons which are valuable today for me even though I do live far from them in college. When I was growing up, I did not like all things that they taught me, however, I was able to stay enough in the path of their teaching and to become a better person every day. If we look and understand the perspective of their teaching with another view, my parents used different theories such as exchange symbols and system theory. I will give some examples form each of them.




One of my favorite theories that I applied mostly is symbol theory. Actions are better than 100 of wards. This was one of the biggest phrases that my parents used all the time to describes something to me and my sister. They are really generous people, loving and caring. When investigators came in my home, or other family members one of the “rules” that we had (and still is) was to invite the person to eat or drink something that we have in our home in the sign of hospitality and welcoming. We were not allowed to go inside of the house with shoes and this was a symbol of respect for the place that we live “Representing as a temple” We should keep slippers and socks.




Some other dynamics that impacted me were exchange theory. Where I lived in Albania, my neighborhood was really small and we were close to our neighbors. My mother always told me that you should give more that you receive. However, this was not my favorite thing when I was young and the feeling that I had was that people were using us. On the other hand, they were giving us back in ways that I did not understand. In my own experience is a compelling example of this. Every time that I went to school and my neighbors had their garbage outside, I should grab and through them away for them. Sometimes I was lazy or late for school and my mother should yell at me that I did not help and show service to them. On the other side, neighbors were giving us back many things such as good friendship, loyalty, food when we needed, etc.




Many rules and traditions we had in my family and because of that, I do still apply those in my college life now. For instance, when my roommates do not clean the dishes I will be the one doing those for them and expressing my example. This is service as well we exchange things to one another and help in the needs of the other person. Even though many people and friends that I get to know from different countries do not have the same traditions and rules as to how they grow up in their family, I still apply my childhood teaching and I try to respect their behaviors. Everyone is different and that what makes us special. Family is like music, some high notes, some low notes, but always a beautiful song.

If you can't feed a hundred people, then just feed one.

Life is a blessing with many opportunities, changes, and creativity. Nowadays, many people find it really easy to design things that make them happy and provide changes for the best of their life. I would like to write today about how my life changed forever only by doing small and simple things with a big meaning. For many people that don’t know me, I am from Albania a country which is really small but with a big heart. Since the begging that our country was known as an independent country, we were known as the country with generosity and really welcoming. Therefore, the same way that our ancestors had grated their family is the same way that we welcome others today. 

Usually, it is hard to find trust in all people and to make it possible to change the life of others. However, if you forget your self and you want that others can be happy more than you are, everything can be possible. Many people find hope and gain more strength form faith, motivation, goals, etc but for me, the most amazing thing that gives me hope and desire to do good is understanding more principles of faith that I believe and practice. I was born in 1997, 23 years ago(looks really long time ago) in a family where God was known as something that you could swear in His name only that you could be more honest and reliable. However, my family was raised atheist but my mom was a strong believer in a higher power and we respected many religious activities such as Muslims, orthodox, and Catholics. I do remember that during my early age we were going in some (teneqe) place where you can put your name in a circle and someone could pray for you, and it was really scary sometimes, but I was feeling that I should follow my family and do the same thing as they did. As years go by my mother had the opportunity to meet two young boys for the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. They had a tittle in their name tag which was elder. For us was really weird that both those young men had the same name. They were inviting everyone to joy for free in their English course and my mother was able to invite them to their house so they could teach us English. My aunt was with my mom that day and the first meeting was able to be done at my aunties house. Missionaries (was the calling of the young men) came in my auntie’s house they were teaching elementary English for my mom and my auntie’s family. After they finish the lesson, they invited them to pray and share some spiritual thoughts which were about God and what they believe. For the first time, my mom was able to learn more about the plan of salvation( which is differently called the plan of happiness). Therefore, my mother was so surprised and wanted that missionaries could come and teach my father and both of me and my sister. 

After the first week that missionaries were sharing lessons with my aunt’s family, came in our home, and the first reaction that my sister and I had was that we do not like churchy people. However, my mother had seen something different in them and knew that if we listen and be humble about what they need to share with us, we could be able to understand more and change our thoughts for them. humbly, with so much strain, we decided to stay and listen to their spiritual thoughts. Being honest I did not understand a word that they were saying and I did not like them because missionaries where American and it was hard for them to learn Albania and pronunciation of the world that was supposed to say could not make any sense to me. On the other hand, my mother was so persistent with us to stay concentrated and participate in the lesson. One of the things that missionaries teach us was about the Book of Mormon, and they said that was another testament of Jesus Christ after the Bible. My mind was really confused because I heard about the Quran and no book of Mormon. However, we continue to participate in teaching, and missionaries gave a book of Mormon for children with illustrations, and I was able to understand more. I did enjoy a lot that and after 9 months my mother and I were making one of the biggest decisions of our life which were baptism. Baptism for many people that do not know is remission of your sins through the name of the Savior Jesus Christ. My life was able to change forever from that conversion that I made even though I was still really young, I was blessed with many opportunities that changed my life. 

If you can’t feed a hundred people, then just feed one. Many of you may come familiar form this phrase which is really well known from the Albanian missionary “mother Teresa” I had used this phrase in my life and I came to realize that for God is not important to change all the world in one day but make the difference in the world by small and simple things each day. We can not be there for all people at the same time, but we can be a miracle of someone’s life. Even though I had not changed many people or i feed many hangry homeless, I had come to realize that spiritual food is more important than every other thing that we have in our life. Each of us can help many people who struggle in finding support, hope, or confidence by feeding them spiritually and helping them to stay focus on positivity and purpose of life, the same way that first missionaries changed the life of my family and mine forever. You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength

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